Thank you to all of the participants that submitted feedback in the "Want to be a Shrink" contest posted last month. We selected a winning "problem" (see post on April 4th) and received advice from various readers. Our participant selected among the entries and picked two winners (who wish to remain anonymous).
One winner is a sales trainer and suggested that our participant may have some "hidden beliefs" that tell him that he will not find love if he is sensitive and caring. They go on to suggest that he uncover his fears and replace them with a new belief that a sensitive and caring man can have "even better, truer love with a woman." He said that rang true for him and was moved by the insight. Congratulations! We'll see how it works for him.
The other winner that tied was chosen because they advised reading a book to help our participant replace fears with improved beliefs (sounds like the same advice, huh?). The book, Attracting Genuine Love, is by Drs. Kathlyn & Gay Hendricks and has an enclosed CD with various exercises to help unlock fears and unconscious beliefs by re-programming emotions and thoughts. The co-winner is a nutritionist and spiritual healer.
My thoughts on the feedback? It's solid. We often create our own reality through our thought processes and belief systems. It reaches to the deepest core and often gets passed down through generations. Think about your work ethic. Do you believe you only get rewarded if you work really, really hard? Do you have conflicts about child-rearing, where part of you says to nurture children while another part (sometimes hidden part) believes children should obey, be seen and not heard? These conflicts are abundant and pervasive. They also tend to be at the heart of a problem when difficulties arise in life. Taking an inventory of your beliefs and looking back on past experiences in your life when those beliefs were reinforced can be powerfully transforming. Counseling or coaching can help guide you through the process...or self-help books like Attracting Genuine Love.
I'll post feedback on our participant as he goes down his journey of love-discovery. Please feel free to try this out at home...and post your comments to share how it's working for you! You can also email me directly at Kimberly@EncompassWF.com.
Thank you again & CONGRATULATIONS to our winners!!